The Erotic Masculine
Reclaiming sex as sacred, desire as leadership, and your body as a temple—not a trap.
The most important things in life are often the least spoken about.
We grow up learning how to respect our elders, how to drive, how to pass a test. But no one teaches us how to be in our bodies, how to love well, or how to hold sexual energy without shame or collapse.
Sex becomes something we stumble into—usually in secrecy, silence, or shame.
But in today’s final session of our 6-week men’s group, we opened the door to something different.
Sexual energy is not a distraction from your life.
It is the fuel for it.
When unintegrated, that energy turns compulsive. It leaks out sideways—in porn, in passivity, in rage, in performance, in shutdown.
But when a man learns to stay with his desire—not fix it, not run from it, not collapse into it—he becomes magnetic.
Grounded. Trustable. Penetrating.
And not just sexually, but spiritually, emotionally, creatively.
This is what most men were never taught:
Desire is holy.
Eros is sacred.
Your capacity to stay with your own hunger without being ruled by it is what makes you safe, powerful, and deeply attractive.
Most men want more sex. Or “better” sex. But they don’t realize: their partner can feel when they’re not in their power.
She feels it when you make her body responsible for your well-being.
When you outsource your aliveness to her responsiveness.
When you want something from her instead of bringing something to her.
And so, she closes.
Not because she doesn’t want sex.
But because she doesn’t feel safe. Or honored. Or truly seen.
Today we explored how sexual energy becomes leadership energy:
When it’s rooted in breath, not performance
When it’s infused with presence, not proving
When it’s expressed with depth, not demand
We explored what it means to want her—but not need her.
To speak from desire, not pressure.
To move from embodied clarity, not reactivity.
And most importantly:
To stay with ourselves—even in the fire of rejection, frustration, or longing.
Because that’s where your power lives.
In the staying.
In the breath.
In the stillness that doesn’t collapse.
This work is not about sex.
It’s about how you show up in the world.
Sex is just where the truth gets loud.
Where your patterns become visible.
Where your nervous system gets exposed.
Where your hunger, shame, childhood, ego, and soul all converge in a single moment of:
Do I repress my sexual energy—cut it off, numb it, pretend it’s not there?
Do I release it impulsively—let it leak, spill, or dominate me?
Or do I learn to hold it—to breathe with it, stay with it, and channel it into power, intimacy, and presence?
If you’re a man who wants to step into deeper presence, clearer leadership, and real intimacy—
this is your work.
My next Masculine in Relationship men’s group begins in May.
This will be our 3rd round.
A 6-week container for men who are ready to get honest—and get free.
–Saadya
In Their Own Words:
“It was amazing. I feel like we went up to the 100th floor in a very quick and effective way. I really appreciate your coaching, your brotherhood, your friendship, and your genuinity. I’m looking forward to joining your next container.”
— GROUP Member
“Your men’s group was truly enlightening and eye-opening for me. Your teachings on masculine/feminine polarity transformed how I show up in my relationships. The work we did on emotional leadership—learning to feel deeply while staying grounded—gave me a whole new model of what it means to be a strong man.”
— GROUP Member
“The men’s container was a vulnerable and liberating experience. I was able to share in a safe space and reap the feedback and shared experiences of a group of men who are looking to grow and explore. I found it empowering and healing in a way that I could not access through one-on-one classical therapy.”
— GROUP Member